Begin with the End in Mind/Start with the Why

 The second habit of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. And the book written by Simon Sinek starts with the "why". Are essentially saying the same thing. That anything worthwhile in this world that has to sustain has to first understand why we are doing what we are doing. So starting with the end in the mind basically just means to understand what it is that we are trying to achieve.

And the Indian Vedic Society starts with that first question to answer. And I bet every religion starts with that. Everybody understood that death is the only reality. That's the end, as far as we can tell. And then we have our own theories that are competing with each other about what happened after the fact.

Of course, in the modern world where there are no beliefs anymore and humanity has for the most part started to behave like there is absolutely guaranteed nothing after death. Is the foundational reason for most common social problems.

The biggest of them being the modern problem of incompatible marriages. Yes, we all have material wealth, but most people are now struggling because most of them are not happy in their marriages and most of them are actually divorcing.

That is a problem of epidemic proportions. And maybe an PAndemic.

Which is eventually resulting in lonely lives for most people. And then lonlier deaths.

We absolutely know from 83,000 brain scans there is a TED Talk about what makes human life flourish, and it is nothing but close network circles and social circles. But in a world where we are all moving constantly in search of more money, to make and again I'm not just talking about us Americans, but also my roots are in India. I grew up in India. It apparently is happening in India as well, even if they are not outside their birth city. We don't have social circles that are closed anymore. Everyone is just looking into their phones. Living in their own worlds.

Add to that the problem where people in marriages are not close to each other anymore.

But what does this all have to do with beginning with the end in mind? It is with the beginning and the end in mind that the Vedic society started the initial concept of marriage itself. 

Marriage and copulation, unlike other religions are sacred sacraments in the Hindu religion.

And they are mandated by policy. Why are they mandated by policy, you might ask?

The answer comes. We are at the end of the day. Bottom line: an animal. With animal instincts and animal needs that needs the other sex.

And marriage is the way to channel that energy. You might then ask why marry, why not just have a society that's open? There is actually absolute research done on this topic as well. What resulted was societies that were collapsing under their own weight because of STDs. So that's not an option.

What else is? Let's first talk about the modern world where because of modern medicine, SJDs are not such a big problem anymore. So an open society is absolutely possible, yes. Is it possible when the outcome is just unhappiness? Broken families. And hence broken children. Children growing up with trauma. Children growing up with parents who are not biologically their parents, which increases the chances of them being physically abused by a hundred x. Like literally a hundred x. Look it up.

And the vicious cycle that starts from generation to generation, and the number of these broken humans emotionally keeps growing in numbers.

What do you think that leads to? An absolutely unhappy population.

Everything that I'm saying is not somewhere far in the future. It is today. This is happening today, in front of your face. All you have to do is get some reading done.

Okay, so what's the alternative now?

Is it the Islamic way of living? Is it the Christian way of living? Or is it the Hindu way of living?

Outside of the Hindu religion, as far as I know these are not sacraments. Again, not enough reasoning has been given in any of the religions to the purpose of marriage. It is required because it's important. It's important because it's required because the book said so.Is the answer that I get from every other religion.

But Hinduism never operated in those terms at all. Marriage is a requirement for almost everybody.Exceptions are only provided by gurus to specific students who they deem worthy to be able to overcome the animal needs of the man.

You see when you reach puberty.Both men and women naturally start getting attracted to the other sex.

There is a natural curiosity that develops that is more powerful than anybody can control.At least most people can control. And what the Hindu religion said is first of all marriage is the channel through which you can continue to live like a human being within the bounds of dharma, and your dharma is towards the person you are married to.Come what may. Now you might say that's too harsh. What do you mean come what may?

I think we can see the results of the slippery slope when we remove that statement.Back to broken families, broken children, vicious cycles, broken populations, so on and so forth.Resulting from unfettered divorces over flimsy excuses.

So the idea is you need to get married?Fulfill your desires within the bounds of the marriage. Have children have responsibilities.Go through samara Bharam.The weight of lifeEventually that weight of life as you get older. First of all, it's going to give you a tremendous amount of joy through your children.

Along with that, as you get older your desires will dramatically drop.Because as we know today based on your age, your hormone levels drop, especially as a man.And your libido starts going down dramatically.

And as you age, this is the ashramadharma coming in.You keep control over your food and change your food habits as time goes by. The amount of hormonal activity causing these desires will go down dramatically as well.

As your children grow up, you go into vana prastha.Eventually find by vairagya.And through viragya you find moksha.

This is just a short introduction. I can go on this topic in further detail eventually to get you to at least intellectually understand.

Every aspect of Hinduism.Starts with the end in mind.And the only end we know of is death.And we work backwards from it.At the same time, we cannot be nihilistic about it.And hence this attempt at building a society based on constraints. Constraints help build societies.Lack of constraints is what you see in the world.

Does anyone dispute my reading of the world that we live in today?And the phrase "we give it".The sexual marketplace.What are we zoo animals?What sort of a society we have built to start calling it this?Where we are analyzing each other like we are animals.It's all over YouTube and Instagram and TikTok.

Is this what we call progress?Where there are no rules and constraints.That's the definition of anarchy.Even jungle has a hierarchy. It's not an anarchy.We humans seem to be worse than animals nowadays.

I understand the opposing side will talk about all the atrocities committed by religion.But which religion is the question?I have a separate thread on this topic.

The scale at which Abrahamic religions have caused misery in the world is unparalleled. All of your complaints about Hinduism are magnitudes, by differences of universes, when compared to Abrahamic religions' atrocities.

Now am I going to say Hinduism is perfect?The Hindu society is perfect.Absolutely not.That perfection does not exist. It's human to be imperfect. But I will contend that it is the greater good and the lesser evil.All that exists.

I will argue about it on a separate thread.So that's it for today.